5 Steps to a Happier Life


I am no life coach. Nor do I have all the answers. I do, however, like to think that I have some life experience, and that I have made a lot of strides on this journey towards happiness.

Like I said, these 5 steps are not the end all be all and there’s no scientific formula behind them. These are purely “Laine’s” 5 steps to a happier life.

It worked for me. Maybe it could work for you too.

  1. Read. Read books that make you a better person whether that’s professionally, personally, emotionally, whatever tickles your fancy. The one book that has changed my life (no exaggeration) is You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. This woman’s take on life and how to look at things with a different perspective truly changed me. It was a turning point in my life, and actually happened to be the thing that gave me the courage to start Cheers, Laine. Thanks Jen!
  2. Own an animal. I wouldn’t say I’m an animal person. Dogs were dogs. Cats were cats. They were cute, but to have my own was not a top priority of mine. Until I fell in love with my Lucy. I talk about her a lot and how she also helped me have a happier life in my blog, The Pitbull That Saved My Life. Having a dog is a love like no other. It’s my equivalent to a mother and her child. (I do acknowledge there is a major difference between the two). Having an animal shows you what it’s like to love and be loved unconditionally. The power of a dog’s love truly can heal people.
  3. Have a work life balance. Seriously. Stop working all those hours. Or if you can’t do that, have a certain amount of time everyday where you DON’T look at your email. Growing up I watched my parents stress and stress about work. I knew I never wanted that. I didn’t want to work 12 hour days every day, but let’s be real, that happens sometimes. So make the conscience effort to clear your mind of work, even if that means an hour a day. (And no, smarty pants, sleeping does not count as clearing your mind from work).
  4. Workout. Whatever that means to you. If that means walking your dog around the block, great! If that means doing Cross Fit, well done! Whatever type of physical activity you need to do, do it. Physical activity can literally improve your life, your health, your mind, everything. We all know it ain’t easy to workout, but little progress is better than none. So keep on choppin’.
  5. Understand yourself. It is critically important that we as individuals understand ourselves. If you know what makes you tick and what makes you do what you do, then you will be able to see more clearly. You’ll know what’s important and what’s not. I’ve come to realize that I am the way I am because of how I was raised, good or bad. I’ve also come to realize that I can change the way I think and view things as I begin to better understand myself. Understanding yourself will shape how you do things.

That’s all she wrote, folks.

What steps have you taken to a happier life?





21 Things You Should Do Every Day In Order To Be Happy

There is not an exact formula to what makes one happy. What makes me happy might not make you happy. But I promise a couple of these things will definitely help you on your quest to happiness. They did for me.

  1. Talk to someone you care about
  2. Compliment someone (and mean it)
  3. Write down 10 things you’re thankful for (don’t BS it either)
  4. Look good, feel good
  5. Shower (no shower Sundays are okay though)
  6. Read something, anything
  7. Drink more water
  8. Exercise
  9. Think happy thoughts
  10. Eat something healthy
  11. Get some good sleep
  12. Stop worrying about money
  13. Thank someone
  14. Smile
  15. Have a drink (vodka water lemon lime for me please!)
  16. Flirt with someone
  17. Laugh
  18. Cross things off your to-do list
  19. Do something out of your comfort zone
  20. Love yourself (YES!)
  21. Choose to be happy (and even more YES!)




How To Title A Blog

As most of you know, I started my blog (which is why you’re here). Before I officially started it (today), I did some crowd sourcing about what the title of this blog should be. First off, I asked my co-workers, who are way better creative writers than I am. And of course, with no surprise, out came Cheers, Laine and Growing old, not up, along with multiple others. Shout out to my girl Lauren on those.

Anywho, I shared those via social media/text asking which one people liked better. I got yehs and nehs for both and also got some good texts responses, especially from my dad. (See screenshot)

This is where I get my sarcasm. And yes, I asked if Nebraska was a state back in the day.

As I was reading and considering what everyone was saying I started to realize I was wishing for one over the other. Kind of like that saying,

When you need to make a hard decision, flip a coin. Why? Because when that coin is in the air you suddenly know what you’re hoping for.

Ok, this was not a life or death decision, but it was important to me.

Not only did I realize what I, Laine, wanted, but I also started to realize who the eff cared what everyone else wanted. I mean, really? I started this blog for MYSELF. Maybe it’ll resonate with someone else, but ultimately this is something I was doing for me! Something on my bucket list, if you will.

And that’s what life is all about, right? Doing things for YOU. I mean, yeah at some point in time someone else will come in to your life and you will have to do things for them or compromise or whatever people do when they have kids and are in relationships. But the first person you have to make happy is YOU. And if YOU can’t do that, you’ll never be able to make someone else happy, and they’ll never be able to make you happy.

So in my first post, if there’s anything you leave with, let it be to put yourself first. Maybe you can’t do that all the time. But once in a while take time for yourself. Do something you’ve never done before. Do something for YOU and no one else.

If you can do that, you’ve already mastered this thing we call life.