Giving 100 Percent to Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, and Friends

I recently read the Inc. article, Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, or Friends: Pick 3, by Jessica Stillman.

I then read a rebuttal article, Forget Picking 3. How to Have it All: Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, and Friends , written by Kindra Hall.

Both of these articles really got me thinking about my life at it’s current state, including work, sleep, family, fitness, and friends.

Can we have it all? Or do we need to really pick 3?

For me, Work and Sleep have really become my top two. I attempt, inconsistently, to bring Fitness in there. Friends, mostly pop in when I need a break from work. And if I’m being honest, Family, usually takes a back seat. Naturally, that’s where these focus areas have fallen.

It’s not the greatest hierarchy, and different people would organize these focuses a different way. Some weeks I need Family and Friends. Others, I need Fitness and Sleep. It depends for me. And I’m working on the best for me.

However, Hall says it perfectly well:

“Be 100 percent where you are.”

It doesn’t matter if you pick 3 or if you want it all, you need to be 100 percent where you are at that moment. That’s where we’ll find success.

We all operate differently. Some of us can only focus on a few things and get really good at them. And some of us can focus on all five of these things and get good at them.

It’s about what YOU can do for YOU.

We can read all the self-help and empowerment books and articles we want, but there is no one size fits all. It’s a trial and error of what works for you as an individual.

But if there’s one thing I can (and should) focus on, it’s being 100 percent present.

We can’t be half in and half out and expect to get results.

Can you give 100 percent to Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, and Friends?



Acknowledge Your Insecurities

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –Eleanor Roosevelt

I always thought I understood this statement and that it didn’t really apply to me. I’m a pretty confident person and I never let people make me feel bad about myself.

So I thought.

My family has three running jokes for me:
1. Fat jokes
2. Stupid jokes
3. In love jokes

Now, they don’t really mean any harm by them, but still they hurt when you sit and think about it. I mean who wants to be “Fatty” or “stupid”? But you know the worst part… I make the SAME jokes with them! I’m not kidding. I’ll joke about how I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been like it’s no big deal. But I hate being this big. I hate being called stupid. I hate when people roll their eyes when I say I’m in love.

So why the hell do I make the jokes, and why the hell do I let others?

I’m insecure.

(You have no idea how hard that is to type. Me? Insecure? No effing way.)

I’m still not sure I’m 100% sold on that yet, but I’m pretty sure it’s accurate.

Here’s how I know…

I’m confident in my looks, but I’m dreading putting a swimsuit on (or finding one that actually fits for that matter).

I think I’m intelligent, but sometimes don’t ask questions because I don’t want people to think I’m stupid.

I am in love with my boyfriend, but I wonder if I just fall really fast for men and if I’m actually capable of loving someone.

I promise this isn’t a “poor me” post. This is me acknowledging that I ALLOW people to make me feel inferior. And in turn, I’ve started to subconsciously believe it. And I don’t want to do it anymore.

We all have our insecurities, whether we acknowledge them or not. The difference is what you do about it. Are you just going to sit around and let people make you feel like you’re not good enough?

No the hell you’re not.

So stop doing it. Stop making fun of yourself all the time. Stop letting other people say things about you that you don’t like.

Acknowledge your insecurities and do something about them.

Own them and work it!