5 Steps to a Happier Life


I am no life coach. Nor do I have all the answers. I do, however, like to think that I have some life experience, and that I have made a lot of strides on this journey towards happiness.

Like I said, these 5 steps are not the end all be all and there’s no scientific formula behind them. These are purely “Laine’s” 5 steps to a happier life.

It worked for me. Maybe it could work for you too.

  1. Read. Read books that make you a better person whether that’s professionally, personally, emotionally, whatever tickles your fancy. The one book that has changed my life (no exaggeration) is You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. This woman’s take on life and how to look at things with a different perspective truly changed me. It was a turning point in my life, and actually happened to be the thing that gave me the courage to start Cheers, Laine. Thanks Jen!
  2. Own an animal. I wouldn’t say I’m an animal person. Dogs were dogs. Cats were cats. They were cute, but to have my own was not a top priority of mine. Until I fell in love with my Lucy. I talk about her a lot and how she also helped me have a happier life in my blog, The Pitbull That Saved My Life. Having a dog is a love like no other. It’s my equivalent to a mother and her child. (I do acknowledge there is a major difference between the two). Having an animal shows you what it’s like to love and be loved unconditionally. The power of a dog’s love truly can heal people.
  3. Have a work life balance. Seriously. Stop working all those hours. Or if you can’t do that, have a certain amount of time everyday where you DON’T look at your email. Growing up I watched my parents stress and stress about work. I knew I never wanted that. I didn’t want to work 12 hour days every day, but let’s be real, that happens sometimes. So make the conscience effort to clear your mind of work, even if that means an hour a day. (And no, smarty pants, sleeping does not count as clearing your mind from work).
  4. Workout. Whatever that means to you. If that means walking your dog around the block, great! If that means doing Cross Fit, well done! Whatever type of physical activity you need to do, do it. Physical activity can literally improve your life, your health, your mind, everything. We all know it ain’t easy to workout, but little progress is better than none. So keep on choppin’.
  5. Understand yourself. It is critically important that we as individuals understand ourselves. If you know what makes you tick and what makes you do what you do, then you will be able to see more clearly. You’ll know what’s important and what’s not. I’ve come to realize that I am the way I am because of how I was raised, good or bad. I’ve also come to realize that I can change the way I think and view things as I begin to better understand myself. Understanding yourself will shape how you do things.

That’s all she wrote, folks.

What steps have you taken to a happier life?





Stop Bitching

There is nothing that irritates me more than when someone bitches about something that is something they can change.

A friend and I were talking about this the other evening over a nice brew from J.K. O’Donnell’s.

Why sit and complain about something in life if you can change it? I mean really. We are able to do literally anything in our lives if we put our minds to it.

I hear a lot of “poor me” and as I sit there listening to most of these people, I literally am thinking in my head how much I want to tell them to STOP BITCHING. Okay, your roommate blows, find a new place. Your brother in law is annoying, stop enabling him. Your marriage is failing, see a counselor. You hate your job, find a new one. You’re overweight, change your eating habits.

I know some people may think that situations like those aren’t so black and white, but I think they can be.

If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.


There is no room in life to bitch about someone or something else. Why not move all your energy to things you can control? Or focus on the positive in your life. People like people who exude positive energy. People don’t like people who moan and groan about life’s short comings.

Shit happens. People die. We fail. People let you down. Etc.

But why sit and feel sorry for yourself? I get that sometimes in life you have to grieve and get so drunk to deal with something. That’s allowed (or at least that’s what I tell myself). But you are not allowed to do this for weeks, months. At that point you are pathetic and need to make a change.

I’m a big believer in picking yourself up from what life gives you and making the changes yourself. It’s hard as hell and doesn’t happen overnight, but it can be done. Your issues in life can change into non issues. And you can be a happier you.

And isn’t that what we all strive for in life, happiness?

It’s that simple.

Life issues – complaining + making changes = happiness.

You’re welcome.