“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
I always thought I understood this statement and that it didn’t really apply to me. I’m a pretty confident person and I never let people make me feel bad about myself.
So I thought.
My family has three running jokes for me:
1. Fat jokes
2. Stupid jokes
3. In love jokes
Now, they don’t really mean any harm by them, but still they hurt when you sit and think about it. I mean who wants to be “Fatty” or “stupid”? But you know the worst part… I make the SAME jokes with them! I’m not kidding. I’ll joke about how I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been like it’s no big deal. But I hate being this big. I hate being called stupid. I hate when people roll their eyes when I say I’m in love.
So why the hell do I make the jokes, and why the hell do I let others?
(You have no idea how hard that is to type. Me? Insecure? No effing way.)
I’m still not sure I’m 100% sold on that yet, but I’m pretty sure it’s accurate.
Here’s how I know…
I’m confident in my looks, but I’m dreading putting a swimsuit on (or finding one that actually fits for that matter).
I think I’m intelligent, but sometimes don’t ask questions because I don’t want people to think I’m stupid.
I am in love with my boyfriend, but I wonder if I just fall really fast for men and if I’m actually capable of loving someone.
I promise this isn’t a “poor me” post. This is me acknowledging that I ALLOW people to make me feel inferior. And in turn, I’ve started to subconsciously believe it. And I don’t want to do it anymore.
We all have our insecurities, whether we acknowledge them or not. The difference is what you do about it. Are you just going to sit around and let people make you feel like you’re not good enough?
No the hell you’re not.
So stop doing it. Stop making fun of yourself all the time. Stop letting other people say things about you that you don’t like.
Acknowledge your insecurities and do something about them.
Own them and work it!