It took me a while to decide to start a blog. I mean, did I really want to share everything with everyone? And how would I know if people would even read it? Well, the important part is that I realized none of that was important. This blog was for me and no one else. I talk a lot about that in my first post, How to Title a Blog.
Anyway, I recently had a friend ask me for advice about her blog. She used to write one then found herself questioning it and stopped. Why? She found that she wanted to write things, but felt like she couldn’t, like she was holding back. Both of us agreed we’re open books, but were we really if we weren’t putting it ALL out there?
I just so happened to watch a movie shortly after that conversation called Ask Me Anything, a movie about a girl who anonymously wrote a blog. (It’s a pretty raunchy movie, so watch at your own risk.) I loved how honest and open she was about her life, but came to realize that she had to be anonymous to write those things.
The conversation with my friend and this movie really had me thinking how unfortunate it is that so many people have to filter what they post on blogs, Facebook, Twitter, or any form of social media without being ridiculed in some way. Granted, I get that I can’t talk about super personal things in my life on this blog due to my job. I understand that I am a representative of the organization I work for and all other things I’m involved in within the community. I get it. But it’s still unfortunate for me and for everyone else.
Every day people fight on Facebook because someone posted something someone else disagreed with. That’s all fine and dandy if you disagree, but aren’t we all entitled to our own opinions? Who are you to ridicule someone for what they say, it’s their opinion. If it’s not affecting you, let it be.
If I could, I would be so bluntly honest on this blog, but I can’t. I can’t talk about sex, I can’t talk about doing stupid things when I’m drunk, I can’t talk about all the most interesting yet most provocative topics in today’s society.
What I have found is that there are people in this world willing to do this without any reservations: Lena Dunham, Amy Poehler, Mindy Kaling, Chelsea Handler, and so many more. My hat’s off to women like these who have the balls to put their lives and careers (sometimes) on the line to talk about things not everyone is willing to talk about. They get ridiculed every single day for what they talk about, yet they still share their lives with us, complete strangers.
So what if we were all a little bit more brave? Whether it’s you speaking up in a conversation, posting something you feel very strongly about, whatever it may be, ask yourself, “What if I was just a little bit more brave than I was yesterday?” What do you think would happen? The world itself would not stop, I promise you that. And you will not be praised by every person who comes in contact with it. But that’s not what this is about.
This is about YOU speaking up and saying what YOU want to say.
Don’t you think it’s time you did?